Marriage is a beautiful union between a man and a woman whom God wrote their story before the earth was formed.
Not everything that transpires in our lives is written in our book—the story of our lives. God is a good God, for He is love, only wanting goodness in our lives.
The ugliness we have experienced or will experience wasn’t written in the book of God’s love story of us, but influenced by the prince of this world, our greatest enemy.
We read in John 10:10: “A thief has only one thing in mind—he wants to steal, slaughter, and destroy.” But I (Jesus) have come to give you everything in abundance, more than you expect – life in its fullness until you overflow! (Passion Translation)
When Job quoted 1:21 of the Lord gave and the Lord taketh, he was crying out in distress. Jesus never confirmed Job’s words, but He expressed that God is good and only wants what is best for His children. There is an enemy who wants to destroy God’s children.
Some believe and teach that everything happens for a reason or that God allows these hurtful things to transpire in our lives – my dear, that is the furthest from the truth. God so loves you and wants you to experience the fullness of His love and goodness, for He is love. He never thinks of bestowing hurtful things upon us, but how He can bless us.
When you think of your children, you only think of their goodness and want them to live a whole, happy life. – how much more God does for you.
The reason horrible things happen to people is that, without realizing it, they allow it. God has given us free will to choose to live for Him by walking in obedience to His ways, or live for ourselves and let the prince of this world influence us. A daily choice we have to make – a decision to lay our own life down in complete surrender to the one who has written our story, or live by the influence we see in this world.
There is a supernatural life we are to live that only comes by renewing our mind with His Word, His words of love, and life written for us from His heart to our heart. Life became a matter of following the Holy Spirit and walking in obedience to His ways. Knowing that we have authority over the demonic influence of this world, that the wickedness can’t touch us if we choose to hide in the shadow of His wings, according to Psalm 91.
There is a comforting assurance that Jesus has defeated our enemy and put him under our feet, giving us authority and dominion over the enemy. A victorious life we may experience if we choose to fully surrender ourselves to the life of Jesus – walking in His ways and not our ways.
We lose nothing but gain beyond what we could ever imagine when we choose to live for Him and not for ourselves.
Sometimes when we choose to live this surrendered life, we feel the pain of our flesh going through a sacrifice and purification. But, my dear, it’s so beautiful when we come to the other side. The pain we went through is no longer remembered.
The joy, peace, and love we experience outweigh any crucifixion of ourselves. The life we encounter with Jesus outshines the life we had before. The giving of ourselves and everything that we hold dear to our hearts at His feet, He gives back with more than we could ever imagine.
A beautiful marriage only occurs when we live a life for Jesus, not for ourselves.
Giving ourselves entirely to Jesus also means offering all of the pain and insecurities we see in ourselves. In return, we receive His healing touch, which restores us to become the wives our husbands need. And a mother that our children need.
The more we experience healing through Jesus and grow in confidence in Him, the less we expect our rights in marriage and the more we focus on our husbands’ well-being.
Falling in love with Jesus – a daily process – causes us to become a whole, healthy person. When we know and experience Jesus’ love for us, it overflows to our husbands and children.
When we keep our hearts in Jesus’ heart, we will experience less pain and disappointment from others. Even our husbands, while working out their salvation in an imperfect way at times, as we are walking out our salvation and showing forth imperfections at times.
We tend to overlook minor imperfections or see fewer faults in our husbands as we immerse our hearts in Jesus’, focusing solely on Him.
We find ourselves giving more grace to our husbands as we experience and know Jesus’ grace for ourselves.
The more we focus on Jesus and look to Him as our source in every area of our lives, the less we rely on our husbands to meet our needs. The fewer expectations and pressure we put on our husbands, the fewer disappointments we will find, since we don’t expect anything from them. However, from Jesus alone, anything we receive from our husbands becomes a bonus of blessings and joy to receive.
To experience a blissful, beautiful marriage, it takes two people who will put their entire focus on Jesus—living only for Him and having an attitude of servanthood toward their spouses. We are not looking at what we can receive from them, but rather at how we can serve them.
As a wife, I never subject myself to being a doormat, but I am an equal individual who finds refuge in Jesus. Come alongside our husband as a helpmate, best friend, and partner in a life of adventure—a journey of living for Jesus together.
We honor and respect our husband as the leader of the home. We are submitting to his role of loving us like Jesus loves His bride, as one who lays down one’s life in love to protect and provide.
Yes, we need to have boundaries, as they are healthy for keeping ourselves safe.
Keep your heart in Jesus, and whatever you receive from your husbands is a blessing and a bonus. Look to your husband as greatly loved by Jesus, and have the destiny to fulfill, like you are greatly loved by Jesus with a beautiful destiny to fulfill. With you, both coming into a covenant of union, make it a covenant union with Jesus, and complete the story God has written for you to fulfill.
Because of the enemy who wants to destroy, you have to fight to keep the marriage protected by keeping Jesus as the center focus of the marriage.
You must cultivate your marriage through prayer and the power of your words. Speak daily of positive scriptures over the marriage and your husband.
Scriptures to read and meditate on.
Matthew 7:11
Matthew 28:18-20
John 16:33
Colossians 2:15
Romans 6:8-10
Ephesians 5:25-33
1 Peter 3
